TDVAM poll 1 answer

While this behavior could be an unhealthy behavior, it’s not quite abusive. It is unhealthy because it shows a lack of communication between partners. It can be a concerning behavior if you both made plans to do something, and then they left without communicating. Lack of communication can be fixed and talked about in a relationship, while it would be an abusive behavior if the communication from the abusive partner was harmful, demeaning, threatening, or accusing.

Your partner getting very jealous of your friends and family is a warning sign of abuse because everyone should be able to hang out with whoever they want, without their partner getting mad, upset, or jealous. It’s good to spend time together in a relationship, of course, but it’s also alright to spend time apart too.

Your partner always checking your phone, social media, or emails is a warning sign of abuse, because it is a controlling behavior. Abuse is about an abuser seeking power and control over their partner, so if your partner has your passwords to your phone, email, and/or social media, they may be controlling who you talk to, what you post, or what you send. Everyone deserves the right to not only their privacy in general but to their digital privacy too.

Your partner pressuring you to have sex, or making you feel bad if you don’t say “yes” to sex is a warning sign of abuse because your partner is controlling or trying to control your actions. You don’t owe anybody sex. Sex should be willing, mutual, and conscious, and, most importantly, with consent. You don’t have to have sex if you are not ready.